People seek me out quite often to get some sort of advice. Suddenly you are feeling that they are trying to take the advice and fit it in to their confirmation.

What they want is confirmation of something they think work in a certain way but when my advice goes in a totally wrong direction it becomes lika a argumentation.

In the end they will do the thing they thought instead of following the advice I gave.

By the years I have become better to read what they want so when I notice it’s just a confirmation I just go along. I know they will come back later when their plan didn’t work out. My hope then is that they will have a more open mind.