Right now I feel I have this communication with several people in several layers. No, the post is not about you even though it touches the subject. This week I just dedicate the blog to the most common things that are pretty good sign that you are not putting everything on your career.

I get so many times that people are really serious about their careers. They are doing everything to get a spot with the stars. They are really putting everything on it. They want to know how to get to “the next step”.
At least that is what they say.

This problem comes a bit down the road. In the beginning, you can put your relationships aside. But in the end, it will be strained. You will be that person who misses all parties. The one that comes on any birthdays. In the end, your old friends will not call you anymore when they re doing something, they know you will just answer you can’t be there.

In the end, it will come to a bigger event. That birthday when your best friend turns even and a party where everyone will be at. You are in a shotty club in a city you never have heard of.

Here are the ones that put their careers will do it. the other ones will suddenly start to say no to these gigs because it’s more fun on the other thing. Yes, I have seen people in bands cry on tours when tehy call home and miss their child’s birthday. Hey, I even pushed my mothers funeral for this career. Yes, you will be selfish but it’s in the reality you have to be.

The worst is partners, girlfriends, boyfriends that are left behind and are making your life miserable. I usually tell people that I can’t count all the relationships I have burned over the years of my career, and i’m not even touring. You need a very understandable partner.
No, you can’t bring them on tour every time. Not even the bigger stars can do that. If you put your relationship before your career, you are not putting things on your career. You are going for a home life with a secure job, and it will crash along the way. You can’t joggle this one.
Kids, no you won’t see them. You have to choose, be with your kids or do a career. Yes, 99% will choose the kids. Still, we are looking for that 1%.